There are things known and things unknown and in between are the doors.”  Jim Morrison Some people spend much of their life confined by their own fears. Fear is a mind-made “never enough” story we tell ourselves that restricts us to the narrow past.  When we are fearful we embody our smallest, least generous selves...Read More

At the mid-point of the path through life, I found myself lost in a wood so dark, the way ahead was blotted out.  Dante, The Divine Comedy, 1307 At one point, in the middle of my life, I realized I wasn’t where I wanted to be.  It felt as if I had wondered into a...Read More

Nothing Ever Becomes Real Until it is Experienced.  John Keats There are several forms of emotional vampires (narcissists, victims, controllers, etc.) who go far beyond aggravating you and have a way of drawing you in and then draining you.  Vampires are different and more dangerous than other annoying people, but they have important commonalities.  Generally, their...Read More

I have been following the science on weight loss, been listening closely to the vegetarian and Paleo communities, and have coached/listened to scores of men and women through significant weight loss. Based on that, here is what I know to be true: First, Address what’s Eating Us: If processed food is being used to fill...Read More

Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgment.    Rita Mae Brown I know when I learn really valuable lessons, I have a tendency to forget what I’ve learned and what is most important to me. Recently, I’ve put trust in a person I had learned earlier is not trustworthy. This experience...Read More

I’m not a mean person, but I have a capacity for it.     Tina Fey A Cherokee grandfather tells his grandson about violence and cruelty in the world.  He describes it as two wolves fighting inside a person’s heart, one is vengeful and angry, the other is understanding and kind. When the boy asked which wolf will win, the grandfather responds, “the one I chose to feed”. I hear stories everyday about large and small...Read More

Inspiration is hard to come by. You have to take it where you find it. Bob Dylan It is estimated that the average person can comfortably maintain stable relationships with 150 people  (known as Dunbars number).  It is our human cognitive limit, mostly due to the size of our brains, that the number of people...Read More

Banishing Hangry: Finding Freedom by Creating Space Hangry=Hungry + Angry An empty stomach is not a good political adviser.  Albert Einstein A client I am working with has been struggling with her weight since adolescence.  Determined to do something about it, she committed to interrupting her pattern of living and eating.   Right away, she...Read More

It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.—Maya Angelou – American Poet 1928-2014 We underwent a home renovation and like most, it was horrendous to live through. During the process, we had a small fire, a flood, and the entire interior of the house was painted a hideously wrong...Read More

[gdlr_space height=”20px”]Last Fall I received a call from a young mother, LW, who was given 6 months of wellness coaching as a gift. She wanted to be a size 12, she felt sad, overwhelmed, and was very fearful about her and her family’s future. Having been overweight all her life, she had never had a...Read More