Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them. Henry Cloud,  Necessary Endings Tarzan must drop one vine in order to grab the one that will pull him forward.  Our wellbeing and personal growth could be...Read More

Right now, the growth edge I’m working on is learning to become less reactive to everything: unplanned events, weather, traffic, difficult people, politics, taxes, insects, all of it. I just returned from hosting a Wellness Week at Playa Avellana, Costa Rica, where I spent hours watching surfers in the Pacific. Their agility astonished me ‑they...Read More

You must change your life.                                                            Rainer Maria Rilke [1875-1926] Archaic Torso of Apollo Finding myself in the second half of life, I am noticing very different...Read More

Top Photo: Queen Alexandra’s Birdwing, the world s largest species of butterfly, wingspan reaching 1 foot. Found only in the forests of Papua New Guinea.   Many people I have come across are asking big questions: “What’s most important to me?” “How do I want to live?” “How can I live with a greater sense...Read More

We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.    The Dalai Lama I saw an explosive interaction between a customer and a cashier recently that got me thinking about anger.  It quickly escalated as they shouted about the other being disrespectful.   Neither one of them were able to...Read More

I think the way I want to think. I live the way I want to live. – Sidney Poitier Work-life balance comes up a lot. I try not to use the term because it is both delusional and blamey. We all want the self-regulation and energy to do all the things that matter to us....Read More

Like a pebble dropped into a pond, circles radiate outward from the center of the situation. Which circle are you in? Recently, I witnessed a troubling conversation.  A friend just had cancer surgery and an acquaintance asked how she was and then launched into a rant about how her father also had a similar cancer. ...Read More

It’s a relationship one has with their resources (Cavanaugh, 2021).   Sure, our internal characteristics help us access those outside resources.  But one can be as adaptable, gritty, and optimistic as humanly possible yet if we don’t have resources, failure or breakage ensues.  Picture an emergency department deluged with patients, ambulances arriving continuously.  There is a...Read More

“There’s a way to do it better – find it.”  Thomas Edison There is a parable used to help addicts but it has wide applicability to everyone.  It goes like this- a boat full of joyful people launches from the dock.  They notice a woman running down the banks of the river trying to catch...Read More

The best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain. ― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow “Parent the Child you Have” is a slogan used in parenting but has application for all aspects of life.  To accept what is, not what we hoped for.   Our distress gets turned up when We want what we...Read More