If peace comes from seeing the whole, then misery stems from a loss of perspective.                    Mark Nepo The source of so much stress in my life and the folks I work with is the expectation that whenever we pursue something, anything, we expect it to go...Read More

Everyone should have their mind blown once a day                            Neal deGrasse Tyson,  Astrophysicist This winter, I spent an extended period of time on the other side of the country helping my brother through a medical crisis. It’s been a frightening time and...Read More

It’s not how old you are, it’s how you are old.   Jules Renard Fluid Intelligence is raw intelligence- the ability to solve novel, abstract problems.  It increases through our 30s then begins a precipitous decline in our 40s.  This explains why younger people are more innovative and populate startups and new music genres. Most readers...Read More

Apathy is feeling indifferent about what is going around you.  It can often travel with depression, but apathy does not include feelings of hopelessness, sadness and chronic emptiness.  Apathy is a lack of motivation.  The very first place to go is inside, to accurately name the truer, deeper feeling one may be experiencing.   Doing this...Read More

Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them. Henry Cloud,  Necessary Endings Tarzan must drop one vine in order to grab the one that will pull him forward.  Our wellbeing and personal growth could be...Read More

Right now, the growth edge I’m working on is learning to become less reactive to everything: unplanned events, weather, traffic, difficult people, politics, taxes, insects, all of it. I just returned from hosting a Wellness Week at Playa Avellana, Costa Rica, where I spent hours watching surfers in the Pacific. Their agility astonished me ‑they...Read More

You must change your life.                                                            Rainer Maria Rilke [1875-1926] Archaic Torso of Apollo Finding myself in the second half of life, I am noticing very different...Read More

Top Photo: Queen Alexandra’s Birdwing, the world s largest species of butterfly, wingspan reaching 1 foot. Found only in the forests of Papua New Guinea.   Many people I have come across are asking big questions: “What’s most important to me?” “How do I want to live?” “How can I live with a greater sense...Read More

We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.    The Dalai Lama I saw an explosive interaction between a customer and a cashier recently that got me thinking about anger.  It quickly escalated as they shouted about the other being disrespectful.   Neither one of them were able to...Read More

I think the way I want to think. I live the way I want to live. – Sidney Poitier Work-life balance comes up a lot. I try not to use the term because it is both delusional and blamey. We all want the self-regulation and energy to do all the things that matter to us....Read More