“We cannot pinpoint the exact moment friendship is born—it grows gradually through countless small kindnesses until unexpectedly, the bond is formed without our awareness.”
Strong friendships are a cornerstone of meaningful life. The word “friend” traces back to Germanic roots (frijaz), meaning “free” or “not in bondage.” In the presence of a true friend, we experience profound safety—a sanctuary where we can be authentically ourselves. This connection can take the sting out of the world.
The poet Mark Nepo poses a penetrating question: “Can I listen without advising?” True friendship isn’t having all the answers or rushing to fix someone’s problems. Rather, it requires witnessing them completely—truly seeing them. When we’re with a good friend, we feel genuinely seen.
Strong friendships operate on mutual give and take. Not keeping score, but understanding that healthy relationships require investment from both sides. We nourish friendships through deliberate intention. These connections become vital fuel for our wellbeing.
A new realization: avoid handing over the switch to my own light—I am responsible for how much light I shine. I can’t allow others to dim that light. While friends provide incredible support, our fundamental contentment must originate from within. We cannot make others responsible for our wellbeing, nor should we accept that burden from others.
Friendship remains one of life’s greatest gifts. The things that matter most take time to develop. Good friends are precious and rare—so make sure you let them know what they mean to you– they enrich our existence immeasurably.
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More Wellbeing Ideas
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50 HACKS
Publicly gathered hacks, rated by users. My Favorites?
- If you want to change, start with the content you consume
- Stop obsessing about productivity hacks and actually start working on that backlog.
- Stop watching the news
- It doesn’t have to be perfect, it does need to be started.
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Mitch Horowitz’s 100 rules for effective living
After 30 years of reading nearly every major work of inspiring literature, the author has created a fantastic list that he considers befitting of highly ethical and accountable people. Some good ones:
- Pay people on time
- Expect corruption
- Emotions are far stronger than intellect
- Cynics know nothing
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People Don’t Fit in Boxes
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Stay Well, Eileen
