Resilience

The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.

Pema Chodron

Resilience has become a buzzword for suffering in silence. The root of “resilience” is the Latin “resilire” “to jump back,” “to recoil,”  In the physical sciences, it’s “elasticity, returning to original shape after compression” The word has been hollowed out, stripped of meaning. We’re told to be elastic bands – stretch, snap back, repeat. But rubber bands eventually break from overuse.

I have an edgier take –resilience is a relationship.  With oneself, with resources.  It’s not about having thicker skin; it’s having better boundaries. Not enduring more; it’s choosing differently.

It’s the art of creative scarcity – Ask for help, delegate, stop doing low-value stuff, stay calm in turmoil or try a different approach.

What can you do with what you’ve got, not what you wish you had.

The silence buried in “resilience” isn’t an etymological accident – it’s the quiet revolution happening when we stop pretending we’re unbreakable and start admitting we’re constantly becoming.

How do we shift rather than return?

Growth isn’t elastic.

Life rarely lets us recoil to who we once were.

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Notice how in these examples, the focus is on their relationship to resources around them.  There was no bounding back.

I will get educated

A high school student with no home internet writes essays on a smartphone, borrows library computers during breaks, or walks to a café with Wi-Fi just to submit assignments — refusing to let lack of tools block their education.

Starting Over

A newly arrived immigrant with limited English takes multiple odd jobs, learns the language at night through YouTube  and uses community bulletin boards to find work — building a life from scratch with grit and ingenuity.

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Stay Well,

Eileen

Eileen O'Grady
About the author

Dr. Eileen O'Grady is a certified adult nurse practitioner who has practiced in primary care for over two decades. In that role she experienced a wide breadth and depth of humanity with disorders of the mind, body and spirit. She believes deeply that internal change leads to wellness, and that many disorders and diseases are entirely reversible with dramatic lifestyle change. Eileen's School of Wellness offers a unique approach to well-being. Through retreats and keynotes, workshops, and coaching, she provides practical tools that inspire, cultivate resilience, mindfulness, and agility, empowering individuals, teams, and organizations to thrive.
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