We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us. Joseph Campbell
During our recent Wellness Week in Costa Rica, a profound moment of self-discovery unfolded. A colleague courageously shared her new insight-seeing clearly how her self-deception masqueraded as self-compassion.
For years, she struggled with inconsistent exercise, believing her gentle self-talk—”Maybe tomorrow”—was an act of self-compassion. But a breakthrough revelation shattered this illusion. She realized her excuses weren’t compassion, but a sophisticated defense mechanism preventing her from pursuing her most important goals. The excuses were disguised as self-compassion. She outgrew herself.
This is the magic of self-awareness: when we finally see through our own narratives, we cannot unsee the truth. It was like a mental X-ray exposing the subtle distortions that kept her stuck. Her mind had crafted an elaborate story to protect her from discomfort, all while undermining her deepest intentions.
True change begins when we have the courage to challenge the stories we tell ourselves. By recognizing our mental patterns, we create space for authentic growth.
Wellbeing Resources
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You Can’t Hoard Life
This essay by Oliver Burkeman author of Four Thousand Weeks helps u see how we can make ourselves miserable by holding on too hard to what we want rather than what we have.
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Create a Brag Document
Not getting the promotion or recognition you deserve? We can mistakenly think that being excellent is enough. Check out a brag document template to capture your personal achievements and learning. Its not bragging, its cataloging your confidence.
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Kindness, Can’t get Enough
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Immunity to Change
To learn more about one of the exercises we do in Costa Rica, Immunity to Change, see this video or read a chapter: “Immunity to Change”
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Stay Well, Eileen
